Gossip usually has an element of truth, just distorted enough to give the wrong impression.
Here’s some indicators that you might be having a conversation with Mr. or Mrs. Gossip:
- If someone’s failure improves the opinion they have of themselves.
- If someone’s failure decreases their concern for their own faults.
- If someone’s failure makes them eager to tell others.
Proverbs 18:8 states, “The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to a man's inmost parts.” Gossip is very seductive. Someone wants to tell you something in “confidence.” They are not sharing this with just anybody but with you and a few select people. You are in a special circle of trust.
Mr. and Mrs. Gossip are sharing because they are “concerned,” and it can’t be gossip if it’s the “truth.” News flash…. It can be gossip and be the “truth.” If you can’t be a part of the solution, you do not need to know the problem. The root of gossip is stated in Proverbs 10:18, “He who conceals his hatred has lying lips, and whoever spreads slander is a fool.”
What do you do about Mr. or Mrs. Gossip? Avoid them. (Proverbs 20:19)